The Whapio Wire
Welcome to The Whapio Wire!
This is where I share the details of my recent journeys…where I comment on the passing of time and the changes it brings.
This is where we keep in touch…
and where we touch the mystery.
2016 has brought some new options at The Matrona.
We have changed our website a bit to reflect the addition of Quantum Wisdom Programs and Homeopathic Programs to our repertory of offerings.
When you enter our site now you will see three buttons…Birth, Healing and Wisdomkeeping. The Birth button will take you to our Holistic Midwifery and Doula offerings. Healing will take to to our Homeopathy offerings and the Wisdomkeeping button will take you to our new Quantum Wisdom programs.
Wisdomkeeping speaks to the aspects of holding transformation that are specific, not only to birth, but to all communication and healing on the planet. We engage discussion of altered states of consciousness and transparent communication. We address woundology, rank and privilege, conflict resolution, collaboration and co-creation, holding transformation and cultivating eldership.
We call this body of knowledge Quantum Wisdom and you’ll find a number of new programs in the Wisdomkeeping section of the website.
We’ve been offering these programs in and around the Asheville, NC area and we are ready to branch out and bring these programs to your community as well.
We offer Women’s Quantum Retreats and a Holding Transformation Weekend Programs for all Healers.
We are also offering a three-month, on-line program called Holding Transformation for Birthkeepers for Matrona Alumni to deepen their studies and for those who wish to participate in a Matrona experience.
And, for a further deepening of the Matrona Wisdomkeeping experience we are offering, in Asheville, an on-site program called Cultivating Eldership Within Ourselves.
We invite to check out these new offerings on our website and let us know what you think.
You’ll be hearing more about our Matrona Foundation as 2016 unfolds. We aim continue to offer Holistic Doula programs throughout the country at no cost to those who are financially marginalized and do not have the resources to pay for classes.
Please stay tuned to see how you can join our Foundation and sponsor classes in your area.
And, of course, The Matrona continues to offer Holistic Midwifery Programs.
Our year-long Correspondence Course has started recently and we have some truly amazing students joining us.
Over the years I have received numerous requests to make available some of our lectures and classes in the Quantum Model.
We recently videotaped a Correspondence Course webinar on Evolving Models of Care and I’ve decided to offer this to a wider audience so you can share in a bit of what we value and learn in our programs.
Right now we’re offering an hour and ten minute video for sale. In it, we discuss the history of modern childbirth by describing the models of care that have evolved from the technocratic through humanistic, into holistic and now quantum.
This is a perfect video to understand the hallmarks of the Quantum Paradigm and to be able to articulate our journey through caregiving.
Here’s a four minute clip from the video…
If you’d like to order the complete video… Evolving Models of Care for $18, contact Siobhan at firstname.lastname@example.org and place your order.
A huge thank you to everyone who has supported Conscious Caregiving and Undisturbed Birth over the past 15 years. The ideas put forth by The Matrona that support the autonomy of women and families will continue to grow and thrive. There is a new Season of Quantum Wisdom and Quantum Midwifery upon us and no one can stop the world from turning or halt the conscious evolution it brings.
Wishing you the Blessings of the Season and a Happy New Year!
To begin the new year we have a video that coincides with the start of our 2016 Midwifery Correspondence Course…
A Revolutionary Alternative for Holistic Midwifery
We are happy to share with you the means whereby we can practice excellent midwifery care without the need to be licensed, certified or governmentaly regulated.
In answer to the concerns regarding the co-opting of Midwifery Care by the university model of education and practice, which threatens to create a single mono-culture of birth,
we describe a legally sanctioned and protected means of practicing birth-care and midwifery
with families in the private sector.
This is actualized by creating a PMA- Private Membership Association This legally guarantees people the ability to give and receive care in a transparent and respectful model, with autonomy for both parties.
Watch our introductory video…
The Essence of Quantum … Part 1
Lately I have been doing some writing and processing on the essence of Quantum Midwifery and the multi-sensual, multi-dimensional world that we are firmly planted in now. I hope you will take a moment, to hear me explain in my own voice, a part of what Quantum Midwifery and Caregiving means to me.
The Essence of Quantum
Most often, in midwifery, what it really does boil down to is this question… do I honor and follow my inner wisdom or do I follow my protocols…and, how do I align these two… especially when I am in a public practice or licensed or affiliated with a specific organization that has protocols.
I remember once my son came to me when he was about 12 years old. I could see that he had been thinking hard about something and was puzzled.
He asked me, ‘Mom, should I listen to you or should I listen to myself? Because sometimes the things that you tell me are different from the things I feel and tell myself’.
I was really blown away because here was my son trying to figure out the same question. Do I listen to my inner wisdom or do I listen to the protocols and guidance of my mother?
And I was so amazed that he could actually articulate his dilemma and come to me for advice!
I told him to always listen to his inner guidance and, while I would always have his best interests at heart, his inner wisdom and internal compass would always be his most reliable navigator of this life.
I also told him that I hoped that I would always be a person to whom he could come for guidance if the need arose.
So, when I transpose this experience with my son into the realms of caregiving and midwifery it makes me wonder if, in our birthing culture, we really do have the best interests of the pregnant family at heart. If so, it would seem that we would support the innate wisdom of the mother and allow that to trump any protocols we have.
Our protocols of care would take a second seat to the mother’s intuition and insight. Prenatal care would be a time of exploring a mother’s wisdom and encouraging a woman and her partner to express their deepest dreams and desires and knowings, and fears too. A time of listening, not prescribing…of educating, not risk screening…of support, not anxiety.
I fear that we have our own interests in being ‘right’ as paramount. We are a fractured health care system, fighting each other, shaming each other, pulling rank to hold position…and then saying it’s for the good of the childbearing family.
If I had told my son to listen to me first and hold my ideas as priority I would not have served him well as his caregiver. I would have betrayed him, regardless of my fear that his insight into himself might not be as potent or relevant as my insight into him. I would have used my privilege as a parent to keep power and control over him. And I would have justified it by saying it was for his own good. And for how long would I have continued to do that? Till he was 16 or 25 or in his 30s or ever…
Love for someone and fear for someone are not the same.
Caring for someone and controlling someone
are not the same thing.
At The Matrona we will continue to speak about how midwives care for women.
We have listened to stories of women who have been told to
listen to the midwife, not themselves.
We have seen midwives justify this behavior out of fear
or from a misplaced sense of control.
We believe that much of this stems not from unloving people who deliberately misuse their influence but from the lack of intuitive experience and
depth in the current education of midwives.
Midwives are taught to ferret out complications and would easily spend an hour testing a mother rather than having lunch with her.
Do we see that nurturing a mother resonates the template for a mother to nurture her child. What could be more natural, more normal.
And do we see that not nurturing a mother, giving her risk screening and anxiety when she came for information and support, is detrimental to maternal child wellbeing?
The average woman may be just that…average and normal, healthy and fine.
And the average pregnancy…is it not the same?
My son was normal when he came to me so why would I treat him as if he wasn’t and give him an answer that wasn’t respectful of the person I would wish him to become.
The average pregnant women is fine, the average labor is fine. We can see this when our experience is more than just the fearful ‘what if’. When we see the metaphysical background of the world we live in, when the education of a caregiver…doctor, midwife, parent…transcends the gravity of ordinary reality and exposes us to the deeper levels of mystical intelligence and soul-level connections, then we trust ourselves to trust each other.
Then, we give our wisdom, not our protocol.
The next time you’re about to give a pregnant woman advice, ask yourself, is this something I believe, something I would tell my daughter, or is this something someone told me I had to say.
And take it the next step…do I really believe, in my deepest place, what I was told to say is the only right way…or do I think there could be another way.
Of course there is another way! There are infinite ways.
When we look for them, we are Quantum.
Mexico…’Gracias Por Todo’
First, there is no mystery about why I love Mexico.
Recently, my friend in Mexico, Evelyn, invited me to dinner at her home so she could share her most precious treasure with me…her family. During our dinner time she asked me what I like most about Mexico.
I immediately thought…YOU, EVELYN…you bringing me home to share your family with me…that’s what I like best about Mexico…the people here who are alive and vital and love their children and their parents…and their guests.
Gracias por todo, Evelyn.
I was invited to Mexico this August to provide a Holistic Doula Program in MXDF. I was also asked to offer a weekend program, also in Mexico City, for practicing and aspiring midwives on Handling Complications in Practice.
The journey was amazing…and this is where I thank people for their many kindnesses….Iliana, an amazing doula, educator, counselor, mother, midwife…whom I met at a Conference in Chiapas many years ago…was instrumental in my decision to come to Mexico.
Also, Hannah, wonderful midwife and birth activist, happily apprenticing in Mexico City…and Matrona Midwifery Graduate…was insistent for us to meet again . And, my dear Itzel, whom I met in Queratero, some years ago…incredible caregiver, doula, mother of two, organizer…my navigator and sidekick in Mexico…showed me the most gracious hospitality of all time.
Her family did likewise…Diego, Juan and Isabella.
So, of course, I’m heading back to Mexico City in December for a Homeopathy Intensive (December 3 – 6) Homeopathy for Practice in the Childbearing Continuum…with a little skydiving trip on the side.
And again, I mention Evelyn…extraordinary organizer, mother, doula caregiver, teacher…Gracias por todo.
I think the pictures say it all…
- Itzel, Hannah and Iliana
(Top to bottom)
- Doulas love getting certified!
And notice the Archangel on the wall.
- Dinner…Erica, Hannah, Whapio, Natalia
Top-Iliana, Itzel, Juan, Roxana, Anastacia and Evelyn with Damian!